Rules of dating when separated
Married couples face the same challenge, and the balance between these two desires of mine is more about respect and courtesy than it is about being divorced or not.
As a divorced dad I am just now entering in a new dating relationship with a woman who does not have kids. We have already had moments of “oh shit, your kids are there, I’m sorry …” and “don’t worry about the kids, they are in their rooms studying.” If I try to imagine her point of view I’d be projecting, so I’ll stick with mine.
There are plenty of single parents who use their kids to get out of almost every obligation. exercise, dating, taking responsibility for their own actions.
However, with a date who is not a divorced mom, the same rule applies.My fear about dating a woman without kids is more about boundaries and time management. It’s not about her wanting more of my attention or not.The issue is my management of my relationship with my kids and my ex-wife I can use the kids to get away with murder.Scenario 1: Crisis If the issue is a crisis that requires a response, I will apologize, explain the situation briefly, and respond with a text or phone call.From that point on, please treat it as an unexpected emergency. But if you’re avoiding the confrontation because “his kids need him all the time,” that might be the issue right there.
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___A woman who goes by the name “Lucky” responded to one of my Single Dad Wants posts with a moving and impassioned comment that’s too long to reprint here (scroll down for it). Your man, your divorced dad, is lucky to have someone so understanding.